I see it so often in relationships.
Codependency is mistaken for love. We walk in with lists of demands. I need this from you. I need that from you. I need you to complete me.
It may sound romantic in movies, but in real life it creates an unhealthy dynamic. When we place the weight of our happiness, healing, and self worth on someone else, we give away our power. That is not love. That is dependency.
You Are Already Complete
Here is the truth many of us forget. You are already whole.
No partner can complete you because you are not missing pieces. You are an adult. You are responsible for meeting your own needs, for nurturing your soul, and for filling your own cup.
A relationship can add richness to your life. It can bring joy, intimacy, and expansion. But your partner is not your lifeline. They are not here to save you, fix you, or carry your inner world on their shoulders.
Healthy love comes when two whole people choose to walk together, not when two half fulfilled people cling to each other in fear of being alone.
The Celebration of Both Paths
Our culture still tends to glorify relationships as the ultimate achievement. We shower couples with congratulations, yet often respond to those who are single with a well meaning but dismissive line: “Just wait until you meet the one.”
But let us pause for a moment. Not everyone needs a partner to thrive. Some blossom beautifully in deep partnership. Others are radiant, fulfilled, and free on their own. Both paths are worthy of celebration.
Being single is not a waiting room for real life. It is life. It is powerful. It is sacred.
You Are The One
So what if instead of asking someone, “When will you meet the one?” we recognized that they already have?
Because the truth is this. You are the one.
You are the one you have been waiting for. The one who will always be there. The one who can love you fully, hold you through the storms, and remind you of your worth.
Love deeply if you choose. Welcome partnership if it enriches your soul. But never forget the most important relationship of all, the one you have with yourself.
Because when you root yourself in self love, when you step into your wholeness, you no longer seek someone to complete you. You simply share the fullness of who you already are.
And that is where true love begins.
